There are so many things I love about the pitt. Including the way it can do.a story yelling beat by just having a character reveal that he has a fake leg. Also love how some of these actors get to shine especially Fiona dourif whom I've only seen playing psychopaths like her dad (like her dad plays) in chucky and the dirk gently series.
I am new here. I have been a long time watcher of you YouTube videos. I am acutely aware of some of my triggers, when I see myself mirrored in my clients . One of the main areas that I have to be aware of, and take care of myself, is when I over identify with a caretakers need. That is especially true when it is a family caregiver that i'm visiting with, i think you can understand why i resonated with this episode. I know it's so important for me to keep on top of my triggers. I don't remember the name of the book right now but it talked about how our clients are like mirrors. There's a possibility that those mirrors will reflect something back that we identify with. I simply love the analogy.
Maybe somewhat related in terms of recognising parts of me in others...I went to a conference about ADHD and while the Doc gave a good presentation (tidy summary of lots of info from a credible source) the most impactful part for me was observing some of the other attendees, especially listening to them during the Q&A. Not at all trying diagnose anybody, but there's a birds-of-a+feather situation and I recognised loads of myself in a lot of the other people there. I was a bit concerned about suggestibility and absorbing too much might inadvertently/subsconciously skew my diagnosis but I don't think that ended up being an issue hah.
The song "Bestie" by Rosemary Joaquin is a sickly sweet bit of wishful thinking, but such a vibe in the sunny weather we're finally getting.
I am wanting to learn more about Transference and Counter-Transference.
When the Transference is an unconscious projection from you to the other person, I feel that implies the thing being projected is not accurate.
For example: If someone does something that annoys me, it is me transferring my own feelings of the behaviour that I may do too. But that does not mean the other person is not actually being annoying, right?
I understand and completely agree emotions sit between people bouncing back and forth (okay, maybe I have watched a bit too much Dr Elliot lately) but separating the “What’s coming from me?” from “What they are genuinely doing” is hard.
I feel at the moment when I become annoyed with others, Transference tells me that is my own problem but sometimes surely that is not the case.
Interested to know of any good general resources of Transference. Loved the “Devil You Know” recommendation. Devoured that in a few days!
In my opinion, I think there is room for both the "transference reaction" to be true and the "other person actually being annoying" to also be true. I don't think having one necessarily negates the other.
I've many times done the 'ick, I'd never behave like that' only to find out later that's exactly how I do act.
I hope I've learnt to look inwards before I judge and think why it gets to me, and often it's something I do and I'm not proud of myself. I try to do better but as I'm human it does tend to be a losing battle.
For the most part I don't see myself in others anymore. I think it's possibly the joy of getting older and slower but I give people more room to be themselves and not a version of me that I'd see when I was younger, I'm definitely not as hard on others for their mistakes and decisions than I was on myself
Book: Blunt Instrument by Georgette Hayer. Although a light detective novel it has a very interesting insight on how the brain can twist love into hate.
Music: The Fall of the Rebel Angel by Enigma. Full poem with music
There are so many things I love about the pitt. Including the way it can do.a story yelling beat by just having a character reveal that he has a fake leg. Also love how some of these actors get to shine especially Fiona dourif whom I've only seen playing psychopaths like her dad (like her dad plays) in chucky and the dirk gently series.
I am new here. I have been a long time watcher of you YouTube videos. I am acutely aware of some of my triggers, when I see myself mirrored in my clients . One of the main areas that I have to be aware of, and take care of myself, is when I over identify with a caretakers need. That is especially true when it is a family caregiver that i'm visiting with, i think you can understand why i resonated with this episode. I know it's so important for me to keep on top of my triggers. I don't remember the name of the book right now but it talked about how our clients are like mirrors. There's a possibility that those mirrors will reflect something back that we identify with. I simply love the analogy.
Maybe somewhat related in terms of recognising parts of me in others...I went to a conference about ADHD and while the Doc gave a good presentation (tidy summary of lots of info from a credible source) the most impactful part for me was observing some of the other attendees, especially listening to them during the Q&A. Not at all trying diagnose anybody, but there's a birds-of-a+feather situation and I recognised loads of myself in a lot of the other people there. I was a bit concerned about suggestibility and absorbing too much might inadvertently/subsconciously skew my diagnosis but I don't think that ended up being an issue hah.
The song "Bestie" by Rosemary Joaquin is a sickly sweet bit of wishful thinking, but such a vibe in the sunny weather we're finally getting.
I am wanting to learn more about Transference and Counter-Transference.
When the Transference is an unconscious projection from you to the other person, I feel that implies the thing being projected is not accurate.
For example: If someone does something that annoys me, it is me transferring my own feelings of the behaviour that I may do too. But that does not mean the other person is not actually being annoying, right?
I understand and completely agree emotions sit between people bouncing back and forth (okay, maybe I have watched a bit too much Dr Elliot lately) but separating the “What’s coming from me?” from “What they are genuinely doing” is hard.
I feel at the moment when I become annoyed with others, Transference tells me that is my own problem but sometimes surely that is not the case.
Interested to know of any good general resources of Transference. Loved the “Devil You Know” recommendation. Devoured that in a few days!
In my opinion, I think there is room for both the "transference reaction" to be true and the "other person actually being annoying" to also be true. I don't think having one necessarily negates the other.
I've many times done the 'ick, I'd never behave like that' only to find out later that's exactly how I do act.
I hope I've learnt to look inwards before I judge and think why it gets to me, and often it's something I do and I'm not proud of myself. I try to do better but as I'm human it does tend to be a losing battle.
For the most part I don't see myself in others anymore. I think it's possibly the joy of getting older and slower but I give people more room to be themselves and not a version of me that I'd see when I was younger, I'm definitely not as hard on others for their mistakes and decisions than I was on myself
Book: Blunt Instrument by Georgette Hayer. Although a light detective novel it has a very interesting insight on how the brain can twist love into hate.
Music: The Fall of the Rebel Angel by Enigma. Full poem with music